Unworthy: How to Stop Hating Yourself is a book about one of the worst feelings in the world: the feeling that you’d rather be anyone but you. Self-loathing can happen to anyone, but it is almost never reality-based. Nor need it be our permanent fate. Like the book whose name it shares, this blog is a gathering place for all of us who want to stop hating ourselves. It examines the many ways in which we lost our self-esteem, reveals the many weird things it makes us do — some of which are survival techniques in disguise — and offers positive strategies that can help us regain it.
And hey: In this strange selfie-riddled world, you don’t have to love yourself — but you don’t have to hate yourself, either.
Thank you so much for writing this book. Your words and stories resonated so much with me. For the first time in my life I don’t feel alone. I’m a forty-something professional woman who struggles with low self esteem every single day. I feel very alone because none of my friends (at least from what I can tell, but I’m pretty sure) suffer from this to the extent that I do. I have parents who are insecure with low self esteem, who were/are not very loving or nurturing, and probably never should have had children. My upbringing deeply affected me and I’m only realizing this now through therapy. I wish there was an online forum on this topic. Other than with my therapist, I can’t really talk about this with anyone.
Thank you for this fantastic book! It came along at just the right time for me. I had a breakthrough recently discovering that this very critical voice inside of me originated from a controlling, judgmental dad. I am learning to invite these critical voices in (inviting your demons to tea) to decrease their power over me. And your book has given me even more validation! Thank you!